Ideals are the things that often motivate us to do things. They are the reason why we do a lot of the things that we are doing in our daily lifes and how we react to others and their actions. Everyone got atleast a few of them. But some people out there cherish them a lot more then others. Those are the people that are called idealistic. A definition about them on the internet is something like this:
“a person who cherishes or pursues high or noble principles, purposes, goals, etc. aperson who represents things as they might or should be rather than as they are: My friend is an idealist, who somehow thinks that we always agree. a writer or artist who treats subjects imaginatively.”
So idealistic people, or short idealists, are people that are pursuing certain principles, goals or are in a specific mindset. Being a vegan for example requires the compliance of certain principles, like not eating meat or not drinking milk from animals. Another example would be a person that always expects certain traits in all people that he or she is meeting out there. That person would be an idealist too – he/she would have the ideal that all people got that specific trait.
You might say now that this is a good thing. I tend to agree a lot of times. Ideals can drive people to do great things. To achieve specfic goals. The ideals of certain researchers of human history to go into detail and be accurate with their measurements led us to what we are these days. But ideals are a two-edged sword.
As many positive things that can stem from them, there are also a lot of negatives. Idealistic people can be narrow minded – they tend to lose sight of many other things while they follow their principles. I personally know someone like that, so let me tell you about this person right now to explain to you what i mean.
The person that i mean is usually a rather nice guy. Hes polite, hes not cursing and he got a family with 2 kids at home. All in all he seems like an average man. But when it comes to his work and being accurate at work and actually creating a complete concept before doing things hes one of the most idealistic people i have ever met. Its like he is switching from normal mode to a idealistic mode where he gets a lot more unfriendly. He tends to get loud too. He also wont allow any other opinion regarding the subject at hand as long as it isnt remotely close to his own opinion. Hes also not compromising when he is like that. He is strictly following his own principles. Even when customers tell him that they want to do it differently, he cant. Our customers tend to not fully analyze everything before they come to us to develop something. He will bring it up at every chance that he gets so that the customer is forced to analyze and to create a concept. It annoys the customers, it annoys us co-workers, but he does not care. He believes that his principles are correct. Mind you, im not saying that he is neccessarly wrong with that. His principles are good. He wants to know every detail so that there wont be any errors. He doesnt want to give the customer any opportunity to blame us for anything later on. He wants to create products that are complete – complete is a rather subject term though. He wants to force the customers to ask themselves questions about what a product actually should be able to do.
Those are all great principles and goals. But in many cases, not all of them can be done. Atleast not by annoying people and trying to force them into doing things. Thats where ideals can lead people away from a normal path. A good product or certain goals to keep it more in a general sense here can still be achieved, even without any forceful behaviour. It may take a while, sure, but it can be done.
I personally am a big fan of staying calm and just explaining the situation openly and truthfully to others, e.g. customers. Let them know about your concerns. Tell them what will happen if they dont do it in a calm manner. Once. Tell them also that it is their choice. This is also a thing in normal life, not only at work – staying calm and talking and explaining things normally to people helps in all kinds of situations.
Because in the end, we usually want to relax and dont have any stressful and annoying fights with others if it isnt really neccessary, right?